Archive for October, 2012


Join your Hosts Michael & Laura A on Happy Hour tonight at 11pm…

Tonight’s Guest are Cristina Palumbo and Geoff Rittenhouse. Stars Of The Alex Bennett & Jay Thomas shows Both on Sirius XM Radio.

Tonight’s Topic is “The Dumbing down of America from Reality TV” Cristina New York’s Pop Culture Expert will be Examining every Detail of the following Classic shows…

1- Honey boo boo

2-16 and Pregnant

3- Breaking Amish

4-American Idol

5-The Bachelor

6-The Bad Girls Club

7- Real housewives of NJ or NY or Miami

8- Dance moms, teen mom

9-Dancing With The Stars

10- Dance moms

11- Teen mom

12- America’s got talent (I went to a live show so I can talk about that]

13-Hoarder Buried Alive

14- Toddlers & tiaras


16-Jersey Shore

17- love & hip hop

18-Keeping up With The Kardashians

19- abbey & Brittney

20- , bridezilla

21-4 weddings

If you haven’t heard Happy Hour Tune in Every Friday on EQUALITY PRIDE RADIO WWRL AM 1600 11pm to 12am…  Happy Hour, Your only AM Radio show For the BDSM/LGBT Communities.

Your Hosts Michael & Laura Have owned Paddles BDSM/LGBT Night club in NYC since 1984.

Call Your Host, Michael & Laura A at 212-868 0975  On-Line Streaming at


HALLOWEEN FETISH BALL Sat. Oct.27th At Paddles

NYC- this Sat, Oct 27th: “Your Inner Darkness HALLOWEEN FETISH BALL” We all have our “DarkSide.” This is your night to expose it…..

Come release the Sweet Nectar of your Inner Darkness and Deepest Taboo desires.

•Date: Saturday, October 27th at Paddles

•Time: 9:00 PM – 3:00 AM

•Address: #250 West 26th Street, NYC, NY., 10001 (btw: 7th and 8th Ave)

•18+ years old to attend.

•on street parking + 2 indoor garages on the block.

Dress Code: Please wear a costume or dress fetish in order to fit the theme. You’re welcome to change into your costume at the club. If you do not have a costume, get a mask. Please, please fit the Costume and/or mask theme.

•As always, our Halloween party will include the intimate BDSM play atmosphere people crave in our 4,000+ Sq.Ft. multi-level dungeon-room for you to play without interruption.   The party will also have: Dungeon Masters, Dungeon Mistresses and deliciously sexy party hostess wearing skimpy outfits.   Our Halloween Parties always RULE and the club is filled with “Kinky SM’ers,” who come out to this party annually.

Price:  •DSF/Affiliate members: Males: $30 Females:$15  •Non Members: $35 Non Members: Females: $20  •There will also be a costume contest.


The party will also have all the standard yummy trimmings that folks have come to expect from DSF (delicious food and snacks)

WE WILL ALSO HELP TO CELEBRATE the 29th ANNIVERSARY OF PADDLES with a Super Huge Cake.   DSF parties rule and people always have fun; some even met long term partners.

For those who never been to our parties before, the management of DSF always tries to match people up. So, if you’re single looking for a play partner(s), or a couple looking for a couple/3rd person, come on down. In addition to having a good time, you just may meet your play or life partner.

DSF parties offer the truest form of SM atmosphere. If you are new to the Ds scene, this is a perfect way to get introduced to it all; in a friendly non pressure situation. In addition to having a great time, you can find playmates and potential partners at all of our parties.   If you are an experienced player, this party will have strict guidelines pertaining to leaving “energy” room for you to enjoy, and most of all, not have your scene(s) interrupted.

As always, DJ DOMinatus will have awesome music to fit the Halloween party theme(ambience, techno, gothic, industrial, and more) for everyone to enjoy.  250w26st Between 7th & 8th ave.  Far Right Door of Building


Join your Hosts Michael & Laura A on Happy Hour tonight at 11pm…  Tonight! The Tea Bag Parties Reaction to this weeks Debete.

You have to hear this!!!

If you haven’t heard Happy Hour Tune in Every Friday on EQUALITY PRIDE RADIO WWRL AM 1600 11pm to 12am…

Happy Hour, Your only AM Radio show For the BDSM/LGBT Communities.  Your Hosts Michael & Laura Have owned the Paddles Night club in NYC since 1984.  Call Your Host, Michael & Laura A at 212-868 0975

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Dark Heaven, Delicious Hell: The TES/Paddles Halloween Party Sat. Oct.20th

hosted by Antonia and Dark Angel513

Date & Time: Saturday, October 20, 2012 •10:00 PM – 2:30 AM  Location: Paddles – 250 West 26th St, between 7th and 8th Aves @ map

Cost: TES Members $20 / Reciprocal Groups, Non-Member Stay-After-Class and Novice Excursion $25 / Non-Members $35  Dress code: None

Description: Play with the edges of your innermost nightmares, explore the intertwined realms of horror and ecstasy! Fearplay takes on an added dimension tonight, as we celebrate our darkest desires!

Unleash your shadow selves in the hidden nooks and crannies of a classic NYC Dungeon … come masked or not, cloaked in fantasy or dressed to thrill.

Most creative costumes will be rewarded, and sensation-loving tricksters will receive treats …remember to ask for your trick or treats at the door !

(2) Best Costume winners will receive free 1-year TES Memberships!   Before the party, check out the TES class, brought to you by our EDGE SIG, or go to the Novice Excursion, and get into the party for a discount! Info for both is pasted below…   ===========================

TES is an NYC-based BDSM education and social group. Please visit our website at, and get announcements and event reminders in our group TES – The Eulenspiegel Society.

250w26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave. Far Right Door Of Building


WWRL AM 1600 On EQUALITY PRIDE RADIO… Join your Hosts Michael & Laura A Happy Hour tonight at 11pm… Tonight! The War on Women and Why NOT ONE WOMAN IN THE USA SHOULD VOTE FOR Mitt Romney/Paul Ryan… Also! Michael & Lauras Night Club {}29th Anniversary this week-end. …

Here Is the TOP 15 Songs from 1984, the Year Paddles Opened. .
“When Doves Cry”…..Prince
2. “What’s Love Got To Do With It”…..Tina Turner
3. “Jump”…..Van Halen
4. “Karma Chameleon”…..Culture Club
5. “Like A Virgin”…..Madonna
6.”Hello”…..Lionel Richie
7. “Owner Of A Lonely Heart”…..Yes
8. “Against All Odds (Take A Look At Me Now)”…..Phil Collins
9. “Footloose”…..Kenny Loggins
10. “Ghostbusters”…..Ray Parker, Jr
. 11. “I Just Called To Say I Love You”…..Stevie Wonde
r 12. “Out Of Touch”…..Daryl Hall & John Oates
13. “Say Say Say,” Paul McCartney & Michael Jackson
14. “I Feel For You”…..Chaka Khan
15. Time After Time”…..Cyndi Lauper
With Michael A-Laura A and our New LGBT Political Voice   If you haven’t heard Happy Hour Tune in Every Friday on EQUALITY PRIDE RADIO WWRL AM 1600 11pm to 12am…
  Happy Hour, Your only AM Radio show For the BDSM/LGBT Communities.   Your Hosts Michael & Laura Have owned Paddles BDSM/LGBT Night club in NYC since 1984.   Call Your Host, Michael & Laura A at 212-868 0975
On-Line Streaming at WWRL1600.COM

Paddles 29th ANNIVERSARY PARTY Sat. Oct. 13th …

I Feel so Old!!! We Thank You All for making Paddles the longest Running BDSM Club On The Planet…

This Sat. night at 10pm Come Join us to Celebrate The Beginning of Paddles 29th Year. WISH US A HAPPY ANNIVERSARY AT THE DOOR AND GET IN FOR 1984 PRICES.

Men $20—Women $5

There are 3 Large Groups Already Coming to Help Celebrate the Night…

NYCLF/Black Beat/ and All those Great Members Of the Paddles Family…


Come Join The Fun and be Part Of The History!!!  

250w26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave. Far right door of Building…

DSFs Demo and Paddles Play Party: Fri-Oct.5th: “Going Deep”

DSFs Demo and Paddles Play Party: Fri-Oct.5th: “Going Deep”

Demo/Lecture: Going Deep: – Punching, kicking, trampling and stomping w/Jim Deuder •this Friday, October 5th at Paddles •Time: 8:00 PM – 9:45 PM (doors open 7:45 PM) •Address: #250 West 26th Street, NYC (Btw: 7th/8th Ave) •18+ years old to attend

ALL OUT BDSM PLAY PARTY 10pm -3am Paddles, The Longest Running BDSM club on the Planet!!!

The presentation: Who needs toys when you’ve got two fists, and a pair of boots on your feet? Come learn the fundamentals of heavy impact play including anatomy, safety, technique and the art of going deep with your partner. Techniques for punching, kicking, stomping and trampling will be covered as well as the use of SAP gloves, truncheons, and other heavy implements.

Although the classroom space will not likely allow for the hands on portion, Jim will be sticking around after breakdown for some practice. So be prepared to hang back with a partner, make a new friend, or work with Jim for some hands-on practice.

The presenter’s bio: Jim Deuder is well known for his sexually expressive style of bootblacking, and rhythmic impact play. Jim has traveled across the globe sharing his knowledge and experience on a wide range of topics from relationships to SM to erotic leather care.

A fluid soul, Jim appreciates the exchange of energy between people more than any one simple physical act. He lives an open and poly lifestyle and enjoys connecting with all variations of gender and orientation. Jim was International Mr Bootblack 2011, is the organizer and founding member of the Bootblack Roundtable in NYC, and currently serves as contest coordinator of the International Ms Bootblack Contest. 250w26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave. Far Right Door of Building.

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Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Getting Naked at Paddles — BDSM: Part IV

Here’s the last of a 4-part series describing my experiences at the BDSM Workshop for the Writers weekend Dr. Charley Ferrer held in August. The venue was Paddles, the longest-running New York City dungeon. Photo used with permission from Michael of Paddles. I’m so glad I had written this weeks ago, because the emotions here are totally opposite those of my previous post.
Nervous? You bet I was. After all, this senior citizen was about to get naked in front of a bunch of strangers in a BDSM dungeon.
All in the name of research.
Being a voyeur on Friday night (see “All Hands on Deck” blog from September 26) was only a taste. Saturday would be a TES party (The Eulingspiegel Society, the oldest and largest BDSM support and education group in the U.S.). With lots of participants. And bystanders. And Traveling Fool (TF), the violet wand specialist who had given our Writers Workshop a hands-on demonstration earlier that day.
I got *ahem* warmed up earlier in the night with my first real spanking (Friday night was just a two-minute taste). Dr. Charley had introduced me to a pleasant-looking, fortyish gentleman who took me aside to discuss my first-time status, quietly explaining what he’d be doing and suggesting the obligatory “Red” and “Yellow” safewords. Then he led me by the hand to a dim loft corner (there are no private rooms, just nooks and crannies), arranged two chairs side by side, and sat down on one.
One of many ways to spank.
With some coaching, I arranged myself belly down across his thighs and rested my elbows on the second chair.  I felt the fabric of my skirt slide up over my butt and the heat of his hand on my bare (well, thonged) skin. Over the next fifteen or twenty minutes he alternately stroked and smacked, softly at first then harder, occasionally stopping the impact to ask how I was doing, never stopping the stroking, the soothing. Always, always there was contact, connection, concern.
Then he called a halt. Um, you’re done? Wait, wasn’t I, you know, supposed to come? He smiled. That isn’t the point, he said. The point was the spanking, the heat, the sharing.
For the necessary Aftercare, he sat me on his lap, cuddling me, talking to me, letting me absorb the stinging heat and, yes, the connection between us. I didn’t see how red my arse was until back in my hotel room. Wow. Not once had I felt true pain. Stinging, yes, but not abuse.
Skirt resettled around my calves, I wandered around, watching a Dom tenderly bind his sub in ropes, stroking, nuzzling, cuddling her, being there for her. Even my untutored eye could tell when she went into subspace.
I watched a Domme flog one of our group, who was also getting first-hand research. To me it seemed too hard and ouchy but she kept stopping to ask if the recipient was okay and always got the green light.
I saw a man abuse his slave with needles and punching and dirty talk while her hands and feet were restrained by thick spreaders, an edge play it was sometimes hard to watch. Definitely not for neophytes.
A birthday party for the rope Dom’s sub came next. Bound and almost naked, she was led to a chair on the small stage. Clamps connected by a chain adorned her nipples. A thin rope connected to the chain was slung over a bar about 8 feet high. The other end of the rope held a paper cup which patrons were instructed to fill with quarters. They did, eagerly. I’ll leave you to fill in the blanks as to the science of it. Diabolical. But I noticed the Dom watched his sub carefully. As soon as he judged her discomfort level to be at her limit of pain—which, she later told us, she bore stoically because she wanted to please her Sir—he swooped up the full, now-heavy cup. Amid a round of applause for the show, a candle-lit birthday cake was brought to the stage and the birthday song raucously sung.
Then it was my turn. TF was ready for me. It was sink-or-swim time.
Deep breath.
I slid my skirt off and sat on the padded bench. Several of my classmates arrayed themselves around me to more or less shield me from passing traffic, and I unzipped my top, took another deep breath and bared all, then quickly snuggled onto the bench, eyes closed, heart pounding in my ears, turquoise thong and black flats my only garb.
Before I ‘fess up to my personal experience with electrical play, let’s go back to our class. TF had described the physics behind the violet wand, that it delivered a jolt not unlike walking over the carpet in dry winter air and feeling the static electricity when touching someone, that the current was less than that of a 9-volt battery. He used a foot switch to power the wands, but technical details are beyond my ability to explain. For more info, go to the International Violet Wand Guild.
He held the wand out for us to feel the tingle, first at low wattage then progressively higher, each of us finding our own level of tolerance to the various sensations. We discovered we could pass it along—each of us touched the person next to her and the current traveled along the route, diminishing but still discernible after five bodies.
TF’s assistant—let’s call him Andy (not his real name)—settled onto the portable massage table in his boxers to be the guinea pig, er, volunteer as we crowded around. TF used various glass attachments (some filled with gases to create a glow of varying colors) to stroke softly or poke more strongly for different effects. He draped a Mylar swag of the type used to decorate Christmas trees and we were urged to touch random parts of it to electrify various spots on Andy’s body. He seemed to have a continuous smile on his handsome young face as we, both singly and in concert, gave him pleasure.
Remarkably, TF observed that he could see my face glow as I watched Andy glow from my efforts. And it was true. Giving someone pleasure provides pleasure as well for the giver. Which is why many of these fetishists and players seek out partners at these scenes.
Which leads me back to Paddles. I tried to relax as TF stroked me with various glass heads or his electrified fingers, but he commented on my tenseness. “I think I’m anticipating,” I replied. What I really meant was, am I really out of my mind to go through with this?
That’s when the handkerchief was draped over half my face, cloaking my vision. Instantly I relaxed, probably because the anonymity it provided gave me permission to give myself over to his ministrations.
In no time I was squirming, writhing, feeling fingers of electricity in unanticipated places, from knees up to my shoulders and places in between. I found myself arching my back to receive more and yet more of the sensation. When he touched my nipples I reacted violently, so he repeated the action, with more and more pressure until my back was half off the mat wanting more. Then suddenly,
“Too much! Too much!”
Instantly all sensation stopped. TF lifted me to a sitting position and enclosed me in his avuncular bear hug, stroking my hair, rocking me slowly, whispering things like “It’s all right,” “I’m here for you,” “I won’t leave you”. From a rocking high I faced an endorphin drop that brought tears to my eyes and apologies to my lips, sorry that I ended his fun, sorry that I couldn’t last longer, that I didn’t mean for him to stop, I should have said “Yellow” instead.
I was told later it took about twenty minutes for that energy flow to dissipate. TF didn’t leave my side until I felt able to stand on my own two feet without assistance. Oops. I couldn’t.
Immediately Doctor Charley appeared in my vision, snapping orders: pull up a chair for her away from the padded table (after all, TF had a waiting list), get her a bottle of water from the bar to rehydrate her, give her a piece of birthday cake for the instant sugar hit. I was done for the night.
No big, since it was nearly two in the morning anyway. I didn’t get to see some of the other scenes, but workshop participant Kathy Kulig is also writing a 4-part series about the weekend, so be sure to go to her blog to read about her own experiences.
Oh, a final note. Climbing into yet another New York City cab, I was first into the back seat. I spied a shiny new penny, face up, on the floor. For those of you who follow Dear Abby, people occasionally report that those are pennies from a loved one in Heaven. I chose to believe that my penny was a sign that my late husband was approving my foray into BDSM. Because I know he’d have been there with me if he could have.
So there you have it. My name is Cris and I’m a violet wand junkie.
Er, a research junkie. Honest. All in the name of my craft. Look for a violet wand scene in my next book *grin*.
P.S. Doctor Charley walked me to my hotel room to be sure I got there safely, checked in with me again after I got home, and wrote me an email after two weeks asking about my mental and emotional state. That’s Aftercare!
What kinks turn you on? What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done?

Sat. Oct. 6th Paddles OTK Domestic Discipline Spanking Party 7pm to 10pm & BDSM Play Party 10-3am
All Doms/Subs– Husband/Wifes–Boss/Secretary–Cop/Speeder,ETC. ALL WELCOME

Spanking-Paddling-Hairbrushing-Strapping-Caning… 3 HOURS OF SPANKING FUN!!!
Sat. Oct. 6th OTK night Munch !!!
The Moonstruck Diner ( What a great venue for a spanking group! MOON-STRUCK???)corner of West 23rd Street and 9th Avenue, At 5:30pm…

All ladies attending get a $5 discount at Paddles, and the guys get either a $10 or $15 discount (we need 10 or more guys to get the BIG discount).

—————— Everyone Can Stay at no extra charge for———
Paddles All Out BDSM Play Party 10pm to 3am.

Real Time Shades Of Gray At Paddles Since 1984

Bring a date Meet someone there or just Watch and Learn, and have some fun {all welcome} all BDSM Play on our 35 play stations.
MeetThe Dommes of The World famous Pandoras Box
Great people– Great music—Hot Play– Legal NYC Lic. Space–A Real BDSM Night club

Come Check-Out The New Sexier Paddles and {We Ain’t Done Nothing Yet} Improvments are being made Bi-Weekly and will continue until it is just right for all. Our Master Builder Eric is making Spectacular New Equipment and up-grading some of the old.
We have already added a Full Size Jail Cell, Perfect for Single Tails. A new Grab/ Tickle/Bondage Box. A new Padded { Jesus Type} Flogging Cross. New Lighting and Effects. New and On going Paint job and Floor Treatment

Come be part of the history…
For info- 250w26st NYC Between 7th & 8th ave. Far Right Door